To the man I may one day love,
Please be
patient with me. When I push you away, when I reinforce my old walls, when I doubt
your intentions, be kind. I know it’s a lot to ask. I know I don’t make things
easy. But it isn’t entirely my fault. I was not born with trust issues.
At age
ten, I was molested by a classmate at school. At the time, it made me cry and I
didn’t want to talk about it. I didn’t understand what had happened to me and I
tried to forget all about it. My best friend, however, understood and she told
my teacher who called me a liar. Said I was desperate for attention. The memory
has been pushed so far to the back of my mind that I don’t even remember all
the details. But I can recall the anger, the fear, hiding out in a school
bathroom for twenty minutes afterward. And his name. One I won’t forget.
Six years
later, my boyfriend’s best friend took a liking to me. He would incessantly text
me, always needed to know my whereabouts, and got irrationally angry when I didn’t
invite him to hang out. When I broke up with my boyfriend, I lost a sense of
protection. This boy persisted and I told my friends I was uncomfortable. I avoided
the school bus that he also rode on and contemplated blocking his number. My girl
friends said I was being ridiculous – they would kill for a guy to like them
this much. He was just being nice. But even though it’d been some time, I still
recognized the sinking feeling in my stomach that made my intestines coil up
against each other.
I trust
my instincts now. I assume the worst while outside at night. I trained my body
to be able to defend itself. Allowing a man to touch my body is a bigger deal
to me than he’ll ever understand. Fully trusting a man is a challenge I have
yet to achieve.
And I apologize
for that. I’d like to think I’m worth the wait, worth the extra effort, but I also
get you may not want the broken girl who has nightmares from elementary
school. But I hope to love you one day, and to trust you, and to touch you like
none of this ever happened.
Sincerely,
Still
Frightened
The creator of this piece has requested to remain anonymous.
The creator of this piece has requested to remain anonymous.
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